Use These Tricks To Solve Any Conflict
Sometimes conflict is an inevitable, and negotiators are experts in reconnecting people or minimalazing the outward effect from it.
Basically every negotiator know these simple conflict solver tricks.
Of course that’s not all of the tricks that you can gather.
There are more which you can find but they are more complex such as body language, the way you speak and more rhetorical devices.
Without further ado let’s get right into it
1. Find common ground
Once you’ve listened to the other person’s perspective or arguments you need to decide if it’s possible to persuade one person to the “better option” for you.
Sometimes it’s impossible and because of that you need to look at the areas where both people agree or have shared interest.
This creates a stable foundation for resolving the conflict.
2. Use “What If” questions
You might be thinking that “What If” is just a simple question.
But what if it isn’t ?
Actually the “What If” questions are a great way to find potential solutions to a conflict.
It also helps to just imagine different scenarios and consider something new, which none of the sides of conflict, brought up.
Why is it that powerful ?
Because if you are a negotiator you don’t have to be creative.
You just need to ask a simple damn question and they are bringing up ideas, quite phenomenal in my opinion.
3. Avoid blaming and accusing
You wouldn’t be suprised that blaming and accusing only escalates conflicts, and makes it harder to solve the problem.
How can you do that ?
There is one trick, this trick is by repleacing “You” with “I”.
For example you can say:
- “I feel like we’re not communicating effectively. ”
Instead of:
- “You’re not listening to me. ”
The difference will be seen right away, trust me.
4. Don’t make assumptions
We people like to think, that we know everything right ?
Well, in conflicts the assumptions it’s dangerous as hell.
It’s safer if you would just ask a question to confirm and reorganize your thoughts, because maybe you will be right maybe not, who knows.
You can do that by these questions for example:
- “Can you explain what you mean by that ? ”
- “Can you help me understand that ? “
Sometimes, thanks to that questions they might say something which they missed.
I hope you’ll become the best negotiators that Earth could ever have.
Thanks for the reading, and have a great day ❤
